1. Be educated about all aspects of divorce. Reading the various websites on divorce is a good start. Read every document available. Complicated subjects always deserve a second reading. Then read in your state statutes on divorce. You'll find it in writing almost-plain English and understand the average person. State statutes may be found by entering your state and the word statutes in most search engines. Look for anything that sounds like"Marriage" or "domestic relations."
2. Buy books on divorce. Generic divorce books are a good start and give you a good overview. But they will not completely do the job. Every state has different laws and requirements for divorce. You must therefore seek for a divorce book that specializes on your state divorce law. Check local bookstores or online bookstores. But be aware: laws change and books will be quickly outdated. That will not be a problem as long as the bookfor general education.
3. Take the high road "during your divorce. Behave perfectly, starts now. Cooperate with your spouse on the arrangements for the children. Do not waste, destroy or conceal assets. Take on the appearance of a "saint". You will be happier, more relaxed, and less harmful to your family and assets. Above all, the spouse that the "High Road takes" is not always better trial in a divorce proceeding. Judges like to see, take the "High Road".
4. Use your newgained knowledge and plan two possible outcomes: the best possible outcome and your worst performance. Be realistic and put it in writing.
5. Use your knowledge about your spouse. Try to imagine what is going on with your spouse mind. Make a guess and write down what kind of results your spouse could pluck it. The best and worst outcome that you imagine would be up with your spouse.
6. With four possible outcomes on paper, you now have an overview of the Battlefield. Using this information you will find, if you find a combination of give and take that "approach is best" outcome for both spouses. It need not be perfect, but do your best. When you're done, you have a powerful plan that will help in the negotiations.
7. Be involved in your divorce. Actively negotiate with the aim of a peaceful settlement. Do not use destructive techniques. They only see bad time for you in court. And never are afraid to ask your> Advocate issues. This is your divorce, and you have to live with the outcome. The well-informed person will always progressing.
8. Last, an expert on every word printed on legal documents and written statements. Ask your attorney also definitions in pounds, or ask other experienced people. Do not assume anything. This is your life - not your lawyer's life. Treat this situation as it is the most important event in your life. Even the well-informed personis always progressing.
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